Deception,+Betrayal+and+Aggression

Workshop 13, Wednesday April 1, 2009:

=**Deception, Betrayal, and Aggression** = By: John Stewart, Karen E. Zediker, and Saskia Witteborn **Deception, betrayal and aggression are three of the most //complicated, difficult// components of interpersonal communicating. ** media type="custom" key="3586968"

 deception:

betrayal:

====Every relationship has its ups and downs. We have all been in to some sort of relationship whether it is a friendship, a romantic relationship, or a family relationship. Each of these relationships have their good and bad times. During Liz’s workshop, “Our Friends, Ourselves,” She discussed that Steve Duck uses the term “relationshipping” to describe what people do to prolong relationships and friendships. During my workshop I will describe the three elements that do the opposite. Rather than prolong and help relationships, most believe that these elements tend to slow down or terminate relationships. I will define the three elements in detail with their motives, consequences, and the different types of aggression, abuse, and violence.==== ====This essay takes a deep look into the concept of deception along with Dan O’Hair and Michael Cody’s six motives that people give for lying to their partners. O’Hair and Cody believe that egoism, benevolence and utility are the three positive motives because they cause no harm to the relationship. They also believe that exploitation, malevolence and regress are the three negative motives because they do bring harm to the relationship. Benevolence and Malevolence are other deceptive practices that we will be discussing along with the consequences of deception.==== ====Next, we will look at betrayal, which in “Bridges Not Walls,” Jones and Parsons define as, “violations of trust or expectations on which the relationship is based” (383), and what they believe are the five features of betrayal. We will also take a look at a recent news clip relating to betrayal and answer the following questions: What kinds of people are more likely to betray others? What actions and characteristics do these people possess?====

My goal for this workshop is to take a deeper look into what these elements are and what causes people to deceive, betray and cause aggression towards one another.
====Please look over and review **Ch. 9: Coping with Communication Walls: Deception, Betrayal and Aggression found on page 378**. Look over the probes, clips, and pictures to prepare any questions or comments you may have. Also, please participate in the discussion I have prepared. I look forward to this work shop!==== 

**Verbal Aggression & Physical Abuse: **
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**Betrayal: **
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